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In his book The No Asshole Rule Robert I. Sutton shows one how to deal with assholes and the damage that they do and ways to overcome their negativity. He deals with work place assholes. I have encountered non-work place assholes and decided that there is no time for assholes. Recently I was at The City of Sunrise 4th Of July Concert and fireworks collecting donations for The American Cancer Society. I did very well collecting $248 to help create a world with less cancer and more birthdays. I stood at the exit asking people to donate to the cause. One young person about 26 years old asked how do I know you aren’t going to take the money and buy beer. I should have ignored him but I allowed my pride to get in the way and I became a bit confrontational and this created a scene and I became the asshole to the point where his girlfriend put her elbow to my throat. At that point I backed off wished them Namaste and knelt in prayer. It was at that point that I realized I have no time for assholes as I stooped to a lower level that doesn’t serve me or the charity well. I learned that next time, don’t even dignify this person’s comment with a reply and to continue to do what I do. I realized that there is no time for assholes because there are many people who will support the cause and will appreciate what I am doing. I have come to realize that what I teach others about some will, some won’t , so what, some waiting, next. I have come to realize that the less time I spend dealing with assholes the more successful I become.
In most of my career I have had many positions where I had to deal with assholes and there misconceived notions that they were right and entitled to break the rules. I worked for Footlocker and then The Athlete’s Foot and after dealing with people who would buy sneakers and a matching jersey on a Friday and return them on a Monday costing me money because their return counted against my sales I decided to leave retail. I worked in the newspaper industry for a while and held positions from production coordinator to advertising consultant. I came across many great people but I also came in contact with those I would call assholes, like the people who would pick up their phone and immediately say I am in a meeting. Hello that is what voice mail is for. I also ran into those who the minute I walked into their business would immediately say I am not interested. Come on people you never know how someone can be of service and value to you. I have come to realize that there are people who get in business and those who are assholes and as a result struggle when they can be thriving.
Make a commitment to eliminate those you see as assholes and you will see how much better your life becomes. If someone is displaying asshole like behavior you have a choice to ignore it, confront it, or simply pray for the person. I generally choose to pray for the person as arguing with them is like wrestling a pig in the mud you both get dirty but the pig enjoys it.
I have found that if GOD brought me to it GOD will bring me through it. My encounters with those I perceive as assholes has taught me that the behavior I saw in them may be some of the behaviors that I am illustrating and that I need to change and get right with GOD so as to not be one of the people who others may not make time for.
Don’t allow the fools (assholes) to bring you down. If you find yourself dealing with assholes think about how you are showing up and the image you are giving off and then commit to change. It is when you change your behavior and the ways that see things that things change.
I have come to use Don Miguel Ruiz’s Four Agreements to help me understand I have no tine for assholes. I have also learned that not everyone is going to resonate with my message but those meant to hear me and interact with me will be guide to me. It is being strong in your truth that will allow you to better deal with assholes or detach them from your life and thus move on it the positive direction of your goals and dreams.
